Being alone can be a potent form of self care. Since this time of coronavirus pause, or shelter in place, there could not be a better time to be grateful for your health. Feel the goodness of your health and be grateful that we are here together having this sometimes wildlife experience.
So when was the last time you were truly alone doing nothing. How long have you gone without texting, listening to your favorite podcast, scrolling through your emails, playing a game or taking pictures to post to Instagram or on Facebook.
The human species are naturally social, because we are connected in so many ways. Getting together for dinner, drinks, celebrations, soaking up the atmosphere of laughter and joy.
When we are forced to be alone, our discomfort can be intense. Or when we’re forced to stay in one place, due to immense fear, how it affects our mood, mentality, and even being around someone you don’t really like. Why is that?
With this type of staying place, most individuals resent it, becomes twitchy with their thoughts of fear, inadequacy, and hopelessness.
From my years of life experiences, I have learned to look at solitude, slowing down, as a time to connect with creativity, productivity and happiness. I get to read and really absorb the words. At times I even find my alone time as self care.
I get to hear my mind, my alone time offers me a form of relaxation and stress reduction, there are no demands for my attention, and I don’t have to talk…. Joy!!
As you can note I am one of those individuals that love, truly love alone time. It is what keeps me sane….
During this time of coronavirus lock down we are realizing how much we need to carve out times of solitude for our own self care. If you find yourself getting uneasy or stressful with all this time to do nothing on your hands here are some things you can do to ease that pressure.
It may restore the inner balance you unconsciously crave.
We are constantly bombarded by what’s expected of us, how we should look, the things to say, what we’re wearing and so much more. Solitude can be your freedom to seek and get to know what you believe and know to be your truth. Help you to become a better partner, friend, daughter, son, father and mother.
When you’re alone you get a break from the concept of yourself that people has placed upon you. You get the chance to go over your own thoughts and feelings.
It is the start of your awareness that leads to the need for your own self care.
Sometimes when we have some time on our hands between schedule time, we think we have to fill it doing something.
Idle moments can be very productive. Research shows that when you daydream, you’re allowing your brain to make connections or have insights that aren’t possible when you are going full speed ahead. That’s when we have our eureka moments!!
Imagine you’re facing a major decision or life choice, or want to quit your job, or start your own business. This time of slowness may be the best way for you to tap into your own inner wisdom.
So when you are anxious have some compassion with yourself. Treat yourself with some tenderness that can calm the mind and help you to think more clearly.
When you sit in silence let your thoughts float through your consciousness and take notes. Writing can help you to stay focus and allow you to hone in on the ideas you might not have considered. Handwriting helps you to engage your brain more deeply than when you’re typing of just thinking of your issue in your mind alone.
Being alone gives you the time to look at the big picture, on your values and your imagination of the future you’d like. This will help you to clarify whatever issues you’re presently facing.
This type of self care may make you feel uncomfortable at first, but I find and hopefully you will also find it get easier with time.
Start by waking up earlier than usual and just watch the beauty and majestic of a sunrise, then gradually increase your time alone looking forward to that time as your renewal in both body and mind.
Know that now is the best time to be grateful for everything in your life, even your high blood pressure - joking… the slowness of our pace, your family, your friends, your home, the fresh air we breathe, and home cooked meals.
So get comfortable, get out your journal, immerse yourself into your own mind and jot down your thoughts in your journal, even if at first you’re filled with fear!!! These are your thoughts and feelings and a form of cleansing and releasing.
Do email and tell me of you enjoying your own company and journaling!!!